Adulting

How does one go from being a child to being an actual adult? Like literally, how does one adult? What age does it happen in?

(if you found the final answer please message me separately and let’s talk)

Honestly, I’m still trying to figure it out. With lots of trial and error of course. While I still won’t give up most of my childish ways, I learned that being an adult can mean multiple things.

I think I found out one of the formulas. At least, one I can kind of put into words. Being an adult is really just about transition. What does transition look like. Intentionality. It seems so simple but it makes all the difference.

This intentionality covers such a wide variety of things. It covers friendships and relationships, it covers health, it covers dreams, it covers hobbies, it covers finances, it covers x-y-z. You name it.

You intentionally invest in the things you care about. You love music? You intentionally spend your time writing lyrics and creating tunes. You love community? You will be at every event or gathering you hear about. You love feeling healthy? You will eat healthy and work out even on vacation. You become intentional as an adult because you realize that time is precious and once a day is gone, it’s gone.

My friend and I started talking about how easy it was to continually be surrounded by individuals. Now we literally have to schedule time to see each other and catch up. It becomes intentional. We can see though that the relationship grows deeper and there is no need for the crowds, just the few is fine. I have in my calendar dates I’ve set aside with people to just go out and share life. Even if some are pending I have it there that it is something important for me.

Another thing I mentioned is how intentional I became with even the time I get to myself when I can go out for a few hours. I literally made a list of things I can do while I’m out. I was intentional with planning something to do for myself that allows me a breather (it usually involves me going to a library and accidentally buying another book, I need to find other things to do lol).

Even with this blog, I have become so intentional with making sure I keep up with it. To keep doing what I told myself I wanted to do. Even if it’s just a thought or idea, I want to write something every day that I can expound on later.

So I came to the realization yesterday that being an actual adult just means you become more intentional about what you are investing your life in. Don’t stress to much about doing it all. Pick the few and pour into that. You will see how much more you will enjoy life.

Now excuse me, I am going to continue sipping my tea in my adorable elephant mug while I watch one episode of Tom & Jerry before falling asleep because why not.